Emotional & Mental Health
Adrenal Fatigue is a major issue and silent battle. Most of us have zero clue that “our issues” are actually because of our taxed adrenals.
If left untreated or ignored it can lead to weight gain, exhaustion, depression, sugar and carb cravings, sickness, thyroid problems, Candida issues, auto immune problems, poor digestion and gut health, strained and stressed relationships, poor sleep and bad eating habits.
When we are so stressed that it becomes our ‘normal’ we unconsciously seek more of it. We may find it how to sit down and relax.
We begin to break down.
How do I know so much about this?
Well beyond my holistic nutrition education, I have been my own best case study.
It’s not a badge of honor to be proud of.
My self care is not some luxury item for rare occasions, it is my most important necessity. And it’s your most important necessity too.
“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”
– Audre Lorde
So how do you support and heal your adrenals and put this into practice?
The 18 Day Love Yourself Naked Cleanse Challenge helps kick start and support the 6 ways you need to focus on to rebuild your adrenal glands. They are:
I was recently interviewed by Heather Chauvin from the Mom’s In Control Podcast. She definitely targets mom’s and parents with her message, however if you have a interest in topics about feeding your feelings with food, sugar addiction, parenting, depression, anxiety and more… you’ll like this. We had a blast together and I loved this interview. I hope you do too.
In this episode, we talk about…
* The true addiction of sugar.
* How food and mood are connected.
* How to start eliminating your sugar intake.
If you like it, take a few minutes to check out Heather’s other podcasts and leave her some love on ITunes. She has some great topics that help so many!
I want to share a bit of my personal story and the pilgrimage of learning authenticity. I hope it inspires you to live more authentic in your life. Living authentically has inspired me to change my last name for my business. My new name is Renee Jayne. Renee Heigel no longer felt real for me.
If you want to know the why behind it all, keep reading.
My purpose here is to guide people to their own empowerment and truth of who they deserve to be. Authenticity is an important part of that empowerment and truth. So if you are someone who has areas of your life where you do not feel real or where your energy is draining, I hope this helps you today.
Authenticity teaches us to recognize and trust our feelings, all of them. The ups, downs and ugly cries in between. Being authentic shows you how to act in a way that is consistent with your values.
It’s about being real. You know, as a opposed to fake. I have lived both ways in my life and each were learned behaviors. If we can learn it, we can unlearn it.
This blog isn’t about how to learn how to understand your language of emotions, that is the work I do with my clients and it is way more than I can share here.
So where do we begin?
We can start with giving ourselves permission to feel and be uncomfortable. We can choose to become more authentic and real in our relationships. The first step is awareness to where you are being inauthentic.
The real and authentic self is cultivated from being exposed to life’s tough and happy moments. When I learned I would become a mother in 2008, I was having a tough time in my relationship and I knew that I wanted to learn to be more emotionally connected, honest and real in my life.
Someone I was close to asked me the question, “Renee, are you happy?” Here I was, newly pregnant and enjoying it but when I answered her question, out of my mouth came these words, “No, I’m not happy.” I was shocked by my own answer. I was so used to hiding, putting a smile on my face, saying my affirmations and unconsciously disguising my true feelings, that I was surprised by my own truth.
It felt good to share so honestly.
I got to thinking, when did I stop being honest with my true feelings? When did I start hiding? And why did I think I had to?
The paradox of “happy” is that none of us are happy all the time. Nor would we want to be. I think our culture misleads us with this idea, especially in the United States.
When we have darker moments, they make room for the brighter ones to shine so much more.
I used to work for this company that often said the slogan, “we’re liv’n the dream”. I bought into that idea with every dollar I had in the bank and what it meant for me was that when things weren’t going well, I wasn’t worthy, good or important. I bought into this fairytale of life where everything had to be perfect or the dream was dead. When I wrote in my journal, at the time, it was in affirmations, dreams and goals. What was missing was the real, low down dirty truth of how I was feeling.
The reality is that life is hard at times. It throws us challenges. Most of my life has been filled with uphill climbs and massive lessons that I’ve had to grow from.
I made a decision that I was going to be vulnerable with myself and open up. I would be honest with myself about all the feelings and emotions. I would start in my journal and would write about reality. I wanted more of this authenticity stuff and I knew I had to feel to get there.
Renee is the name my father chose for me. He named me after the song, “Walk Away Renee”. Written for the band the Left Banke in 1966 and it later became a hit with the Four Tops. I always liked this name and the song. I’m grateful he chose it for me.
Renee also means “rebirth”. It’s not just the meaning I like, I believe rebirth is possible for everyone and everything. Humans are always changing.
Jane, my middle name, is my mothers first name and she gave this to me. My mother gave me the gift of life. She has taught me about human nature. Our relationship has inspired me to learn deeply about the language of emotions. The meaning of Jane is, “God is gracious”.
When I came into this world, I started out as Renee Jane Bauer. By age 5 or 6, my quiet demeanor was identified as “shy” by adults. I spent hours most days, at a table, drawing pictures, creating and building. Completely content being alone, I didn’t feel shy on the inside, I had a powerful voice and ideas in there that I could hear. Then my parents were getting a divorce and the feelings happened. Then the walls formed around me and I used my play time as a way to numb what I didn’t understand how to feel.
I believe many of us do this as children. Some trauma occurs and we stop feeling. We aren’t taught how.
As a child, I learned coping skills to shut down my feelings. Many of us learned these tools… because living a fairy tale seems easier than facing challenge, at the time. Parents don’t always want to discuss hard things with kids because they want to protect them. Just think about it, based on your culture, upbringing or family values, you likely have all kinds of ways you’ve been taught about feeling emotions. We are taught to stop feeling emotions or we are taught to hide them, cover them up or keep them in camouflage so we can manage in the world. We were taught that emotions are for “sissy’s” and make us weak.
Years later, I would abuse food, sugar, smoking, relationships and work to help me numb the range of emotions and feelings I had going on daily.
I believe authenticity is rooted in a language of emotions and feelings. You start to learn to trust that these will guide and take care of you.
We all have an inner genius hidden within our feelings and emotions because it is our native language. The problem is that for so many of us, including myself, we didn’t know this language existed or how to use it.
The best way to pilot our way in this world is through being honest about our emotions. The alternative, at least for me, was a belief that unless I was joyful or happy something was wrong with me and I needed to be fixed.
But we aren’t broken! We don’t need to be fixed.
As I grew into a young woman, I allowed my need to “be liked” to be stronger than my truth. I started to seek acceptance and approval from others outside of myself.
Deep down, I thought I was broken. I believed that I needed to be perfect to be accepted and loved.
I bought into the cultural ideas that “crying is for the weak”, “I’ll sleep when I’m dead”, “I don’t have anything to be angry about” and “I should just be happy”.
The tough girl persona emerged. I was the girl who didn’t cry in movies or have time for all that feeling stuff. I didn’t understand that being unhappy, angry, confused or sad were normal feelings so I shamed myself for them.
As a teenager, I learned to stopped honoring my creativity and intellect. I began to distrust my instincts.
I ended up attracting a job and a new relationship soon after. This environment matched up with my current reality where I lacked of confidence and had a desire to belong. I was so gullible back then.
The new job and soon the new relationship seemed exciting. There were new friends who had goals. Looking back, it gave me a sense of security and meaning while also giving me a way to numb out the uncomfortable feelings I was having at that time.
This created a real disconnection with my real needs.
Self-deception is the worst kind of deception because it is how we end up on a path in life that doesn’t feel authentic and real to who we are.
Now I was hiding behind my workaholism and a new man. I ended up getting married four years later.
I took his name. Further losing my identity and never once trusting the initial feelings I had to keep my own sense of self and name. I owned that new name for 9 years and another 4 after divorce. As a devoted mother and private person, I won’t share much about the dissolution of my marriage, the divorce and years that followed with exception to this:
It was the most challenging growth experience I have had to date and now that I’m on the other side, the most powerful. I learned to leave my victim identity behind and reconnect to my mission, intuition and Self. My emotions became my best teachers. I rediscovered my self esteem. I have no regrets for my son or for myself.
Manny is kind hearted, funny, tender and deep. It is important that he grows up experiencing the best version of his mother as my most empowered, empathic self. Teaching him to use his voice and how to discern and empathize in this world requires me to continue growing in my authenticity too.
During this time, my business, Love Yourself Naked®, was also birthed… I learned lessons in vulnerability, addiction, trust and honesty. Nakedness meant living in reality. I had no other choice but to live so I could speak my truth and evolve authentically. I built this entire Love Yourself Naked® business through advocacy for health: mental, physical, emotional and spiritual.
For the past couple of years, my last name has stirred up thoughts and a range of emotions that I allowed myself to process and feel.
I kept Heigel as my last name post divorce for 2 reasons. First, it was the name I build my entire business around. I had spent 7+ years putting my blood, sweat and tears into creating this coaching practice, programs and online identity with a purpose to help people get healthy. I have been known as “Renee Heigel” for so long that there are a lot of people who actually think Heigel is my maiden name. Second, my son’s last name is Heigel too. It’s been important to me that we have matching names, until now.
I’ve asked for advice from people I trust and I meditated on it. I’ve heard answers from people, usually stemming from the fear of change that I was projecting outward. They mentioned my “personal brand in business” or “my credibility” or “all my work would be lost” or “my online identity” won’t match anymore.
These were valid points. I had a decision to make: Stay with the name that I have outgrown or rename and cast aside the 7+ years of a business identity I worked hard to build.
I chose the latter.
Now that I have evolved and stripped myself naked of so many of the identities that I once carried, I know that my safety, creativity and freedom manifests from within my ability to feel it all.
This value of learning my emotional language means knowing myself so well that I don’t need others to make me feel important or validated.
This I know to be true: People know me because of my reputation and for how I make them feel when I show up in life.
It’s also important that I identify with a surname, something that is distinctive to who I am in the world now.
I chose to use “Jayne” as my last name. It’s a combination of my middle name and I’ve added the “Y” so it’s fully mine. There is more symbolism here that I will keep to myself.
An Urban Dictionary favorite:
“Jaynes are usually wildly intelligent and crafty. Likely to take over the world using robot ninja powers and cunning. I am Jayne, ruler of the universe”
In all seriousness and in celebration, I would like to re-introduce myself to you.
My name is Renee Jayne. (It feels super weird to say at first for me too… maybe we can get used to it together and take our time with it? What do you say?)
My mission has not changed, in fact, it’s gotten stronger.
New name, new programs.
I guide people to their own empowerment and truth of who they deserve to be. I am an ambassador of health: mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. I am a teacher and student of exquisite self love and care. A superhero: here to help save the planet from abuse.
PS. This is where I would love to hear from you. What is your experience with living authentically in your life? Share in the comments below. I love hearing from you.
Mike from our community posted something within our community forum (thank you Mike). I shared it on social media and it’s caused some conversation and reactions. I want to include you in on the conversation and give you a heads up about a free online workshop I created.
This should be illegal to market to children, what do you think? By the way 93 grams of sugar is equal to 19 teaspoons of sugar.
Notice I said “illegal to market”, not illegal to sell. Freedom to sell things is important, even if I don’t happen to like it. (wink)
- Do people know how much sugar impacts brain health, hormones and the body’s ability to gain or lose weight?
- Do children know how they are being marketed to with products that can hurt their development and brain health?
- Do parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and caregivers know how both they are their loved ones are being targeted by marketing companies?
- Do people realize how much the constant marketing of sugar, driven by the subsidies that we give our agricultural industry for corn, soy and refined sugar, are psychologically impacting them, their family and children?
- Do you know about the fact that sugar hides inside 74% of our packaged foods and this makes it challenging for people to stop eating so much sugar, even though they may want to.
PS. Remember, seats are limited for the online workshop, whether you’ll be with us LIVE or desire the recording make sure you register here.
During the 7 Day Sugar Challenge that I host for free, many people fill out surveys through out it that I get to read. I read every single word from every single person. I have read hundreds of forms in the past week!
I look for the message often between the writing… the story being told that isn’t fully being said. That story is one of “shame” and “guilt” for not always being our word with ourselves when it comes to habits, food, working out and more.
Many people are not doing what they say they are going to do and then they shame themselves for it. We have lost trust with ourselves, in many of the cases anyway.
The antithesis of shame and lack of trust is communication. You must find a place to share yourself and communicate… a trusted friend or trusted journal or our trusted FB forum. Find a way to communicate your real voice, the one that isn’t always easy to share.
If you are concerned how to keep up winning at the sugar game, then join in on my free online workshop: The 4 Types of Sugar Addiction: How To Control Your Relationship With Food, Create Long Term Harmony and Become Truly Happy On The Inside
If you are in the trenches with cravings and feeling like sugar has control over you, then click here to join my Free 7 Day Sugar Challenge.
I was 17. There was a old, yellow, 70’s looking fridge in our garage; it had a 2 liter of coca-cola sitting right inside the door… That bottle was just sitting there, waiting for me to return home from class. It was on my mind while I listened to the professor speak. I was in my first year of college.
As I drove home in my 1990 gray Jeep Cherokee, I would eat an entire container of orange Tic Tacs that I picked up from Costco in bulk earlier that week and think about drinking in a tall glass of my Coke when I got home. It was my special treat. This all felt very normalized and yet somewhat secretive… maybe even sacred.
During this time, I had yeast infections (just being honest), stomach issues and daily allergies that involved me taking regular antibiotics and allergy meds. I popped allergy meds almost every day like they were another container of Tic Tacs. I was constantly sick with a cold. I was in a codependent relationship with a boy, he was charming, wonderful and an addict, at the time. It all felt unhealthy and yet somehow safe. I was a committed Marlboro Lights cigarette smoker and also addicted. My addictions were different than his. I liked cigarettes, refined sugar and high fructose corn syrup.
I had no idea the harm I was inflicting on my body at this time. I remember one day, when I came home, The Coca Cola was gone. My father had taken it I guess, it just wasn’t in the fridge, like normal. I remember this day vividly. When I asked, he shared that I had been drinking too much and I needed to stop. I was so livid with him! I knew he was right though. My grandmother came over later that week and shared with me that Coca Cola would “take the rust off the cars”. She barked at me, “imagine what it’s doing to your insides and you drink so much! You need to stop it!” I heard her, but I didn’t want to believe her. I closed my mind to the ideas she shared.
If you are someone who drinks too much Diet Soda or regular “pop” or soda. You need to stop it too. And yet, you already know this, I don’t need to tell you that drinking soda accounts for 184,000 deaths each year (source: Science Daily). Or that artificial sweeteners alter your gut microbiome making your very susceptible to disease. On some level you know this to be true, right?
Let me show you how to do this: The 7 Day Sugar Challenge begins soon.
I have been appreciating the last week and this one too… all the snuggling and nesting at home with my son and my man (it’s a holiday vacation). Wearing no make up at all and mostly yoga clothes (as you can see in my video below).
It wasn’t long ago that I wasn’t feeling so snuggling and happy during the holiday season. If you’re having a tough time, please know that I can relate to that as well and you’re aren’t alone.
No matter where you are emotionally, mentally and physically right now I want to remind you that you have the ability to change it.
One of the things I have repeatedly done in my life is work to “change my story”.
I created this short little 2 minute video for you if you are someone who wants to create new habits, a new version of your life and ways of living it.
Watch it below.
Oh and two more things!
Also, my favorite part about this time of year is taking applications, interviewing and inviting the right men and women to enroll in my mentorship program called Love Your Life Academy. I’m going to be sharing more about this program in the weeks to come and if you’re someone who already knows you want to apply, you can click here to do that now.
Learn how to change your story below:
I personally love listening to podcasts and being interviewed on them is always a treat. If you aren’t listening, I highly recommend it! My most recent interview was with Katie Dalebout on her Let It Out Podcast. Katie is an inspiring woman and we had a lot of fun together.
Katie and I talk about:
- Conscious parenting tips
- How to surrender and find acceptance with your body
- We talk favorite books, movies, shows
- We talk “loving yourself naked” and what that can mean for you.
- At the end of the show we talk about the issues with seeing ourselves as “separate” and looking at the realness of racism and how important it is to listen and understand.
“The art of surrender is letting go of control and allowing yourself to feel trust that it’s all going to work out for your best and highest good…. When you surrender to acceptance of where you are right now it’s actually the opposite of giving up.”
– Renee Heigel
LISTEN BELOW or DOWNLOAD ON ITUNES HERE
There are many stages of grief. I want to share some with you today and give you some tools and awareness so you can be reassured that you’re not losing your mind or self. I want to share this challenging topic in the most creative way, so before I explain how I did that, hear me out about that grief you may be experiencing.
Have you ever had someone say, “get over it already” or “it wasn’t meant to be” or “you just need to accept it” or “this is all for the best” or “they are in a better place” or “it’s time to move on” or “just let it go”? And then maybe their very words made you so angry or irritated you could barely speak? Well, that means you have some grieving work to do and I want to help you do it.
I had a really tough time for a little while, during the past few years.
One of those times, I was breaking down while sitting upon my meditation pillow and I chose to just sit in the pain. I wanted to get up so bad from that pillow, to do anything but sit there. But I did not. After sitting for a long while, I began to feel a little better. My eyes were closed and I felt this warm sunshine sensation on my face from the sun peaking through the window blinds. I felt so much grief and emotions in that moment and yet there was this sunshine and warmth happening too. It was the epitome of contrast: pain and sunshine and it impacted me.
I took a selfie, just for me, so I could remember that warm sunshine. I needed a reminder the sun would shine on me again. When I looked down at that selfie I took, it looked like art. Not because of my face but, because of the way the light fell upon a face. I became inspired and I snapped some more pictures.
Days later, I began to write about my grief and the stages of grief that I believe all people experience at some point in their life, it eventually turned into this guide for you. It felt like these selfies would provide a real window into the journey of grief and it’s my hope that it will give you the opportunity to know you don’t have to be afraid to feel all of the emotions you feel. Feel free to comment in the comments below to share yourself.
Important: These stages of grief do not necessarily go in order. They will move and twist and turn as you do, however using this as a guide will help you to come back to yourself when you feel lost. I personally have felt All of these emotions in the span of one single day before. You might too. The goal is to give yourself permission to experience the uncomfortable. Okay, let’s go.
Shock and Denial
The chest pounds. The head hurts. The throat tightens. The solar plexus (spot above your belly button) begins to feel tight. You don’t want to hear. No listening right now. You don’t want to know anything more. How can this be? Where do you run? Where do you hide? Is this real? How is this happening, right now? So we seek to avoid the pain because it’s just all too much. You numb (trying to protect yourself from feeling emotions that are overwhelming to you). We can become addicted to our phones, the internet, binge watching TV, food, drinks or drugs. We need to watch that here. It’s hard because the pain is unbearable and your mind will create an alternate reality where this horrible thing that happened could not have really happened. You need to be in this and you need to feel it fully. Try your best not to numb with too much stuff. You cannot escape reality. You are not going to accept the reality for awhile, but you need to stay in the shock and sometimes that means pulling the covers over your head and crying your eyes out, hiding in the corner or sitting in denial quietly staring at the wall. Know you are not alone. Share yourself with a trusted family, friends or within community.
Pain and Guilt
When the shock wears, the numbing eases up and then pain becomes unbearable… almost excruciating – you will want to avoid and then numb or escape further with food, sugar, alcohol, drugs or your phone. Worst of all, you may become addicted to your mind, creating stories that you have on replay. Stay strong, dear one. I know it hurts. Don’t blame yourself, you did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. Don’t let guilt, shame or fear come out to eat at your soul, no matter how chaotic you may feel. Instead, let yourself be in the pain. When we stub our toe we must feel the pain and we know it will eventually pass. This pain will pass too but only when you open to feeling it. I know it’s so much bigger than a stubbed toe, but you still need to remember that your job is to feel this particular pain because it helps you grow into the person you need to be. When you are here, in this pain, it’s going to be tougher for you to share yourself. You might feel like you lost your voice or your ability to write, work or communicate with others. That’s okay. Let yourself be here. Notice that you might start to have some anger coming through. Crying is normal. Pulling away in relationships, also normal. You gotta talk about it, though. Find a place to talk about it. Even if it’s below this post. Force yourself to share the fact that you are in pain. You are hurting and it’s okay.
This is where you bargain. Your voice is coming back. You are starting to feel fire in your body and you may not know what to do with it. Anger is such an important emotion, it has a bad reputation and that’s because the average person doesn’t allow themselves to feel it fully or in a healthy way. Don’t be average. Anger wants you to move. It wants you taking action. Our anger needs to be felt fully and we need to channel it to something productive. You may want to blame others but that isn’t healthy because this is about you. Trust me, it really is about you because it’s your anger. Own your anger and choose to feel it or release it in a healthy way. Kickboxing or some kind of healthy channeled aggressive workout helps a lot here. Please try not to numb your brain with mainstream media or useless reality shows during this time. It won’t help you now. You see, if you numb and choose not to feel the anger during this tumultuous time, you will go into victim and poor me-mode. This isn’t the end of the world if you do this, it’s normal from time to time but what it does do is catapult you into a viscous cycle of pointing fingers and blame. You’ll be angry at “them” or “it”. You will get stuck in the vicious loop of finger pointing and it won’t serve you or anyone.
You are being called to stop pointing the finger to everything and everyone else and to take action instead. You are being called to move your body. You are being called to feel right now. Take action, start something new, build things, gather people, create something from your pain.
Then you feel lonely. You might feel like people don’t see you or understand you. People might tell you to “move on” or “everything happens for a reason”. You want to scream and yell at them but inside you are so deeply hurt and the true magnitude of loss, betrayal, emptiness and not being seen is hard to feel. It’s easier to say nothing now. Every bit of abandonment from childhood is triggered. You will isolate yourself here. You will avoid others, sleep longer (or want to if you cannot), eat too much or nothing at all. We often want to numb here too. Our culture tells us to take depression meds to avoid this stage and that creates horrible conditions that teach us that we shouldn’t feel. It gives the emotions we need to feel, shame instead of compassion. I’m here to tell you that you need to feel. I beg you to give yourself some love and compassion during this time. Certainly there is a place for some who require meds, but I believe that for the most part, it’s a spiritual crisis you may be going through and a loss of how to regain control over where your mind is going. Seek help if you need it here, always. Also know this: we keep repeating the ‘story of what happened’ over and over again in our mind.
You are being called to stop the story and to choose a new one. It is tough to do this so stick with it. It’s the only way. I want you to know that you are capable of changing the story playing in your mind. You are not excluded from this. During this time, try to keep your essential life together… dishes get done, make your bed, brush your teeth, take a shower. Do just the essentials and keep your environment clean. Sit with yourself and breathe. You need to breathe to calm your body down. While you do this, remember that you are not alone.
Life calms down a bit. Things begin to normalize with sprinkled in moments of pain, grief and more anger. You must be proactive here. Do some backbends, yoga, long walks or aggressive workouts. Open up your back, your chest and mostly your heart. Go outside and breathe in some fresh air, if only for a moment. Did I mention breathing???
Walk to your mailbox or a block down the street. Seek out what you are grateful for, even simple ideas. (Thank you sun for rising today or thank you toilet for flushing) Sometimes we need humor here too.
You are beginning to remember that nothing in this world is certain. Nothing is in your control, even though you wanted to believe it was. You will wrestle with this concept over and over again right now. You begin holding stronger boundaries within your relationships and with yourself. You learn to be your word and to trust yourself more. You begin to share more vulnerably with people you trust. You begin to see glimpses of gratitude and light in the world once again. You make a choice to open your heart even when it’s so damn hard.
Your goal is to take action in a determined way with your clear objective in mind. You might not know what you want to achieve now. That’s okay. Keep asking the question anyway, “what do I want?” The “how” may not be clear. That’s okay too. You realize forgiveness is necessary. You must forgive you and them. You must learn to have compassion for yourself. Little by little, you work through the stages above: Shock and Denial, Pain and Guilt, Anger, Depression and Opening Up. You learn to feel emotions and feelings more fully now without avoiding them with that 3rd or 4th drink or helping of ice cream. You begin to get that growing your “emotional intelligence” is what will make the biggest impact on your life. You start to see that you may have been taught not to feel throughout your life… and you learned certain coping strategies to numb out with food, drinks, drugs, work, sex, smoking, unhealthy relationships. It’s painful to come to this realization but it’s the only way through. You will now begin to work on the problems in front of you one by one. Finances, housework, out of control stuff, lack of organization, unhealthy relationships, your body. Step by step, you slowly pull yourself up by your boot straps and rebuild your life. You begin to live your life, love your life and break free from living with grief, depression and addiction and instead with voice, service and desires.
You find awareness and accept your situation now. This doesn’t mean you like the situation. This doesn’t mean you like the people involved or the change in scenery. You don’t need to be happy to find acceptance. You learn to “detach” and then accept. You detach by learning to give up control of the outcome and trust that the Universe is conspiring for the best and highest good for all involved. You learn to give up control. You learn to turn off that old story in your mind that limits you. You may want to fight this process tooth and nail because as humans, we love to be in control.
But then you’ll come back to remembering that you were never in control to begin with. However you can control one thing, the thoughts you allow in your beautiful mind. You start to see that the issues, frustrations, anger, pain, loss, fear and sadness you feel are walls that you’ve been fighting with your whole life and that this situation is just showing them to you so you can heal them. When you are here, you will accept the hand you’ve been dealt and choose to grow through it. Deep down, you’ll know there is no other choice but to surrender, so you’ll stop resisting. If you’re having a hard time accepting, that’s okay, it just means you need to refer back to Shock and Denial at the top and start over again with moving through your grief. I’m proud of you. Learn to be in awe at what you’re capable of and share that with others.
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