Love Yourself Naked
Adrenal Fatigue is a major issue and silent battle. Most of us have zero clue that “our issues” are actually because of our taxed adrenals.
If left untreated or ignored it can lead to weight gain, exhaustion, depression, sugar and carb cravings, sickness, thyroid problems, Candida issues, auto immune problems, poor digestion and gut health, strained and stressed relationships, poor sleep and bad eating habits.
When we are so stressed that it becomes our ‘normal’ we unconsciously seek more of it. We may find it how to sit down and relax.
We begin to break down.
How do I know so much about this?
Well beyond my holistic nutrition education, I have been my own best case study.
It’s not a badge of honor to be proud of.
My self care is not some luxury item for rare occasions, it is my most important necessity. And it’s your most important necessity too.
“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”
– Audre Lorde
So how do you support and heal your adrenals and put this into practice?
The 18 Day Love Yourself Naked Cleanse Challenge helps kick start and support the 6 ways you need to focus on to rebuild your adrenal glands. They are:
Have you ever considered doing a whole foods cleanse for your lymphatic system or liver? It helps with weight loss, supporting your lymphatic system to drain, cellulite loss, overall health of your cells, digestion and skin + so much more.
Below is a video on why I do a cleanse each season + why you may want to consider doing a seasonal cleanse along with me.
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I want to share a bit of my personal story and the pilgrimage of learning authenticity. I hope it inspires you to live more authentic in your life. Living authentically has inspired me to change my last name for my business. My new name is Renee Jayne. Renee Heigel no longer felt real for me.
If you want to know the why behind it all, keep reading.
My purpose here is to guide people to their own empowerment and truth of who they deserve to be. Authenticity is an important part of that empowerment and truth. So if you are someone who has areas of your life where you do not feel real or where your energy is draining, I hope this helps you today.
Authenticity teaches us to recognize and trust our feelings, all of them. The ups, downs and ugly cries in between. Being authentic shows you how to act in a way that is consistent with your values.
It’s about being real. You know, as a opposed to fake. I have lived both ways in my life and each were learned behaviors. If we can learn it, we can unlearn it.
This blog isn’t about how to learn how to understand your language of emotions, that is the work I do with my clients and it is way more than I can share here.
So where do we begin?
We can start with giving ourselves permission to feel and be uncomfortable. We can choose to become more authentic and real in our relationships. The first step is awareness to where you are being inauthentic.
The real and authentic self is cultivated from being exposed to life’s tough and happy moments. When I learned I would become a mother in 2008, I was having a tough time in my relationship and I knew that I wanted to learn to be more emotionally connected, honest and real in my life.
Someone I was close to asked me the question, “Renee, are you happy?” Here I was, newly pregnant and enjoying it but when I answered her question, out of my mouth came these words, “No, I’m not happy.” I was shocked by my own answer. I was so used to hiding, putting a smile on my face, saying my affirmations and unconsciously disguising my true feelings, that I was surprised by my own truth.
It felt good to share so honestly.
I got to thinking, when did I stop being honest with my true feelings? When did I start hiding? And why did I think I had to?
The paradox of “happy” is that none of us are happy all the time. Nor would we want to be. I think our culture misleads us with this idea, especially in the United States.
When we have darker moments, they make room for the brighter ones to shine so much more.
I used to work for this company that often said the slogan, “we’re liv’n the dream”. I bought into that idea with every dollar I had in the bank and what it meant for me was that when things weren’t going well, I wasn’t worthy, good or important. I bought into this fairytale of life where everything had to be perfect or the dream was dead. When I wrote in my journal, at the time, it was in affirmations, dreams and goals. What was missing was the real, low down dirty truth of how I was feeling.
The reality is that life is hard at times. It throws us challenges. Most of my life has been filled with uphill climbs and massive lessons that I’ve had to grow from.
I made a decision that I was going to be vulnerable with myself and open up. I would be honest with myself about all the feelings and emotions. I would start in my journal and would write about reality. I wanted more of this authenticity stuff and I knew I had to feel to get there.
Renee is the name my father chose for me. He named me after the song, “Walk Away Renee”. Written for the band the Left Banke in 1966 and it later became a hit with the Four Tops. I always liked this name and the song. I’m grateful he chose it for me.
Renee also means “rebirth”. It’s not just the meaning I like, I believe rebirth is possible for everyone and everything. Humans are always changing.
Jane, my middle name, is my mothers first name and she gave this to me. My mother gave me the gift of life. She has taught me about human nature. Our relationship has inspired me to learn deeply about the language of emotions. The meaning of Jane is, “God is gracious”.
When I came into this world, I started out as Renee Jane Bauer. By age 5 or 6, my quiet demeanor was identified as “shy” by adults. I spent hours most days, at a table, drawing pictures, creating and building. Completely content being alone, I didn’t feel shy on the inside, I had a powerful voice and ideas in there that I could hear. Then my parents were getting a divorce and the feelings happened. Then the walls formed around me and I used my play time as a way to numb what I didn’t understand how to feel.
I believe many of us do this as children. Some trauma occurs and we stop feeling. We aren’t taught how.
As a child, I learned coping skills to shut down my feelings. Many of us learned these tools… because living a fairy tale seems easier than facing challenge, at the time. Parents don’t always want to discuss hard things with kids because they want to protect them. Just think about it, based on your culture, upbringing or family values, you likely have all kinds of ways you’ve been taught about feeling emotions. We are taught to stop feeling emotions or we are taught to hide them, cover them up or keep them in camouflage so we can manage in the world. We were taught that emotions are for “sissy’s” and make us weak.
Years later, I would abuse food, sugar, smoking, relationships and work to help me numb the range of emotions and feelings I had going on daily.
I believe authenticity is rooted in a language of emotions and feelings. You start to learn to trust that these will guide and take care of you.
We all have an inner genius hidden within our feelings and emotions because it is our native language. The problem is that for so many of us, including myself, we didn’t know this language existed or how to use it.
The best way to pilot our way in this world is through being honest about our emotions. The alternative, at least for me, was a belief that unless I was joyful or happy something was wrong with me and I needed to be fixed.
But we aren’t broken! We don’t need to be fixed.
As I grew into a young woman, I allowed my need to “be liked” to be stronger than my truth. I started to seek acceptance and approval from others outside of myself.
Deep down, I thought I was broken. I believed that I needed to be perfect to be accepted and loved.
I bought into the cultural ideas that “crying is for the weak”, “I’ll sleep when I’m dead”, “I don’t have anything to be angry about” and “I should just be happy”.
The tough girl persona emerged. I was the girl who didn’t cry in movies or have time for all that feeling stuff. I didn’t understand that being unhappy, angry, confused or sad were normal feelings so I shamed myself for them.
As a teenager, I learned to stopped honoring my creativity and intellect. I began to distrust my instincts.
I ended up attracting a job and a new relationship soon after. This environment matched up with my current reality where I lacked of confidence and had a desire to belong. I was so gullible back then.
The new job and soon the new relationship seemed exciting. There were new friends who had goals. Looking back, it gave me a sense of security and meaning while also giving me a way to numb out the uncomfortable feelings I was having at that time.
This created a real disconnection with my real needs.
Self-deception is the worst kind of deception because it is how we end up on a path in life that doesn’t feel authentic and real to who we are.
Now I was hiding behind my workaholism and a new man. I ended up getting married four years later.
I took his name. Further losing my identity and never once trusting the initial feelings I had to keep my own sense of self and name. I owned that new name for 9 years and another 4 after divorce. As a devoted mother and private person, I won’t share much about the dissolution of my marriage, the divorce and years that followed with exception to this:
It was the most challenging growth experience I have had to date and now that I’m on the other side, the most powerful. I learned to leave my victim identity behind and reconnect to my mission, intuition and Self. My emotions became my best teachers. I rediscovered my self esteem. I have no regrets for my son or for myself.
Manny is kind hearted, funny, tender and deep. It is important that he grows up experiencing the best version of his mother as my most empowered, empathic self. Teaching him to use his voice and how to discern and empathize in this world requires me to continue growing in my authenticity too.
During this time, my business, Love Yourself Naked®, was also birthed… I learned lessons in vulnerability, addiction, trust and honesty. Nakedness meant living in reality. I had no other choice but to live so I could speak my truth and evolve authentically. I built this entire Love Yourself Naked® business through advocacy for health: mental, physical, emotional and spiritual.
For the past couple of years, my last name has stirred up thoughts and a range of emotions that I allowed myself to process and feel.
I kept Heigel as my last name post divorce for 2 reasons. First, it was the name I build my entire business around. I had spent 7+ years putting my blood, sweat and tears into creating this coaching practice, programs and online identity with a purpose to help people get healthy. I have been known as “Renee Heigel” for so long that there are a lot of people who actually think Heigel is my maiden name. Second, my son’s last name is Heigel too. It’s been important to me that we have matching names, until now.
I’ve asked for advice from people I trust and I meditated on it. I’ve heard answers from people, usually stemming from the fear of change that I was projecting outward. They mentioned my “personal brand in business” or “my credibility” or “all my work would be lost” or “my online identity” won’t match anymore.
These were valid points. I had a decision to make: Stay with the name that I have outgrown or rename and cast aside the 7+ years of a business identity I worked hard to build.
I chose the latter.
Now that I have evolved and stripped myself naked of so many of the identities that I once carried, I know that my safety, creativity and freedom manifests from within my ability to feel it all.
This value of learning my emotional language means knowing myself so well that I don’t need others to make me feel important or validated.
This I know to be true: People know me because of my reputation and for how I make them feel when I show up in life.
It’s also important that I identify with a surname, something that is distinctive to who I am in the world now.
I chose to use “Jayne” as my last name. It’s a combination of my middle name and I’ve added the “Y” so it’s fully mine. There is more symbolism here that I will keep to myself.
An Urban Dictionary favorite:
“Jaynes are usually wildly intelligent and crafty. Likely to take over the world using robot ninja powers and cunning. I am Jayne, ruler of the universe”
In all seriousness and in celebration, I would like to re-introduce myself to you.
My name is Renee Jayne. (It feels super weird to say at first for me too… maybe we can get used to it together and take our time with it? What do you say?)
My mission has not changed, in fact, it’s gotten stronger.
New name, new programs.
I guide people to their own empowerment and truth of who they deserve to be. I am an ambassador of health: mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. I am a teacher and student of exquisite self love and care. A superhero: here to help save the planet from abuse.
PS. This is where I would love to hear from you. What is your experience with living authentically in your life? Share in the comments below. I love hearing from you.
I personally love listening to podcasts and being interviewed on them is always a treat. If you aren’t listening, I highly recommend it! My most recent interview was with Katie Dalebout on her Let It Out Podcast. Katie is an inspiring woman and we had a lot of fun together.
Katie and I talk about:
- Conscious parenting tips
- How to surrender and find acceptance with your body
- We talk favorite books, movies, shows
- We talk “loving yourself naked” and what that can mean for you.
- At the end of the show we talk about the issues with seeing ourselves as “separate” and looking at the realness of racism and how important it is to listen and understand.
“The art of surrender is letting go of control and allowing yourself to feel trust that it’s all going to work out for your best and highest good…. When you surrender to acceptance of where you are right now it’s actually the opposite of giving up.”
– Renee Heigel
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I have a secret tea I drink often that I want to share with you. It impacts the immunity of your body probably more than most any other item we can consume. I suppose it is not that big of a secret, I share it with my clients and in The 18 Day Love Yourself Naked Cleanse Challenge, but it’s not a very commonly talked about tea or food item that you hear about in mainstream health. It needs to be though! I’ll share it with you in a bit, it’s called the Chaga Mushroom. Before I get into it, I want you to know why this is so important.
When we feel low energy, under the weather or notice we are getting sick, we often think about adding in some more Vitamin C, Zinc or probiotics… at least I hope you do, because those are great tools for your “immune-boosting tool kit”.
You may also want to consider removing sugar and processed foods, which leads to low immunity and candida overgrowth in your body and therefore causing colds. Click here to register for the 18 Day Cleanse Challenge to help you do that.
Fermented foods such as raw sauerkraut or kimchi provide preventative health care of your gut, helping to do the repopulating of your healthy bacteria that your body desperately needs to keep your immune system strong.
Did you know that most of your immune system lives in your abdominal region? Keeping it healthy is essential to avoid getting sick.
So when we overdo the processed, packaged and refined foods – it takes a toll on our gut health. In addition to sugar, other things like white carbs, gluten, GMO foods like corn and soy and artificial ingredients… these really lower our immunity.
Over time, our adrenal glands begin to suffer, which can lead us to worse issues with sugar cravings, getting sick often, headaches, belly bloat, sleep problems and more.
So people have called Chaga, “The Gift From God”. It’s been used all over the world (Siberia, China, Japan) for thousands of years because of it’s all powerful ability to impact the body in ways that one food source usually doesn’t. I heard of Chaga because it is grown in Northern Michigan, north of where I live within the state. I bought it after pregnancy to help heal my body and I’ve been drinking it for most of 7 years now.
Chaga has changed my life. I’ll explain how and where you can buy it below.
It is a mushroom, but it looks more like a piece of tree bark and it’s just as hard… I need to use a small saw to cut the large Chaga chunks in half at times.
Chaga contains the force of actual trees – and that is powerful. Think about how long trees live… thousands of years and therefore Chaga gives you longevity and a concentrated power that contains B vitamins, flavonoids, phenols, minerals and enzymes. It’s also one of the world’s densest sources of pantothenic acid – this vitamin is needed by the adrenal glands as well as digestive organs.
It also has riboflavin and niacin in significant amounts and Chaga is rich in phenols. These phenols are also called a chromogenic complex, which means that it is highly protective for all tissues in your body.
The neat thing is that this is only found in Chaga.
There is more – Chaga also has minerals that come from the wild, such as copper, calcium, potassium, manganese, zinc and iron and it has an ingredient that is super powerful, which is why I call it a super food, it’s called Superoxide Dismutase (SOD).
Anti-aging and longevity:
Superoxide Dismutase – this is an enzyme, found in Chaga, that is so powerful because it stops oxidation, especially the toxicity of a free radical known as singlet oxygen. This particular oxygen (singlet) damages tissues and makes us age.
There are things called adaptogens that modify your body’s response to stress and this is so important, consider the stress the average person is under in our world.
When you take adaptogens each day, typically in the form of herbs, you will greatly improve your mental and physical work capacity.
Chaga is actually found to be the most powerful of all adaptogens.
Yes! THE MOST POWERFUL!
The fact that we know that most 80% of diseases are due to stress, that makes Chaga even more potent.
I have helped support myself and my clients with Chaga tea. M clients and I can testify to Chaga being one of the key items in helping to turn things around with our health.
Chaga has been known to help with the flu, viruses, stomach disease, intestinal worms, liver ailments, cancer, AIDS, metabolism, longevity, adrenal fatigue, thyroid issues, blood pressure, immunity, diabetes and all around good health.
I love that it is grown in Northern Michigan Forests – my home state. It’s also grown all around the world.
How to buy Chaga:
When you order Chaga through my Amazon account, I get a small portion and that money goes directly back into this business to help fund this blog and future research on products that I use personally and 100% believe in before I refer to you. So if you want to buy Chaga today, click here to do so from my Amazon store. Thanks for your support.
I personally buy Chaga in chunks.
You can also buy it as a ground powder or in a tincture (I also like the tincture).
I have seen Chaga Tea bags sold, but I assume those are not near as powerful as you are usually not getting it in it’s purest form. Yes, it’s cheaper but not as powerful.
You can enjoy Chaga Tea daily and up to 2-3 times each day. For treating illness and disease, always contact your health care practitioner or send me a message to set up a consultation by clicking here.
How to make Chaga Tea:
Chaga is sun dried and broken down into chunks. You can either grind it down using a saw and mortar or you can steep the chunks.
Use a large stock pot that you do not care about staining – Chaga will stain your stainless steel pot.
Fill up the large pot about 1/2 way and take out 2-3 large chunks and bring to a boil. Then let the Chaga simmer on low heat for 2-3 hours.
Drain the Chaga mushrooms out of the “chaga mushroom tea” and put them into a glass covered in water. You can reuse these mushrooms to boil 1-2 more times in the weeks ahead. Store in the refrigerator always.
I store the tea in large mason jars in my fridge.
I drink Chaga plain.
It’s helped people stop drinking so much coffee.
At times I add a little hemp milk, cacao powder and raw honey and make a “Hot Chocolate Chaga” – this is my son’s favorite and boosts his immune system too.
You can also sweeten with small amounts of honey (raw honey is recommend).
PS. For more information on Chaga, recipes and how to safely detox off sugar and other inflammatory or toxic foods, as well as healing support for your adrenal glands and immune system, consider joining the 18 Day Love Yourself Naked Cleanse Challenge, click here now
This is a special edition of The Cassie Sobelton Show – a full hour 6 fabulously fierce wellness warriors and myself — all from Detroit, Michigan, a community that is rapidly growing. Get ready for an a powerful estrogen infused podcast, full of diverse women centered on holistic health with different perspectives on everything from vaccines, to parenting to feminine issues and business!
In this week’s episode, we have (pictured left to right) Renee Heigel, Angie Niedzinski, Cassie Sobelton, Natalia Petraszczuk, Amber Poupore, Preya Shah and Julie Kwon Evans.
This blog is meant to help you unlearn the pain that holds you back in ALL areas of your life: your body, your brain, your career, your relationships.
The Mirror Project will encourage you to take action and build your self esteem.
Take action and do the exercise I give you. All that I ask is if you like it, share it with others. Pay it forward. Comment below and share what this blog means to you, if you feel like it.
Here are some things I hear from clients every day:
“Renee, I don’t know what I’m passionate about. I’m seeking out my joy in the wrong ways and it keeps getting me into trouble.”
“I just don’t trust myself to be my word. I have said I am going to do things so many times and I don’t do them. I stopped respecting myself and I put everything off. I’m such a procrastinator!”
“I don’t take time for me. I am a helper. I do everything for everyone else. Sure I get my pedicures and go to yoga for sometimes. But I don’t know how to have relationships with people unless I’m giving everything I have. Then I feel drained and eat and drink too much. Heck, I don’t even know what I’m supposed to be eating!”
The common denominator between the clients I work with is that they are lacking in self esteem and they often don’t know it. They want help, change and new tools. But they don’t realize that a lot of their issues are based on how they feel about who they are and how much they trust their own choices.
No meal plan, recipe or personal chef is going to fix a broken down self esteem.
When I was just 21, I hired my first life coach and took part in a weekend long coaching workshop. I wanted personal growth. And at this time in my life it was considered super weird because no one quite knew what life coaching was. It was the leaders of this workshop and also author Louise Hay that first shared with me the words “mirror work” and an exercise around it.
Now I’m going to share it with you. The exercise is revised by me a bit, but thank you to Louise for the inspiration from over fifteen years ago!
I want to first explain why you will benefit from this.
People become unrecognizable (in a good way) when fueled with confidence, self esteem, oxygen and health. They exude a different energy and because of that they attract a different kind of life.
Why? They begin to unlearn their pain. They notice that their fears are connected to their desires and that when they face some fear and feel their pain fully, they unlock so many hidden gifts within them. One of those gifts includes how to feel healthier, more free and connected in relationships. It’s amazing to witness.
The first step to growing your self esteem is to have the courage to face and see your own shadow. Your shadow is a compilation of your fears, pain, shame, patterns and limiting thoughts all intertwined with your greatest truth and deepest desires.
This means you need to look at yourself. You need to look in the mirror to get a little deeper look at that shadow because there are hidden gems that live there.
So many of us miss those gems because they don’t take a minute to look.
The Mirror Project is a taste of what I teach my clients in my Love Your Life Academy (LYLA) program and one one one coaching.
How does the Mirror Project work?
This introductory version to mirror work will take anywhere from 1 minute to 5 minutes each day. It can take more if you want. It can also last for only 20 seconds, if that’s all you have when you first start.
Just be sure to start. No excuses.
If you are still reading this you know you need to try it at least once.
Then you repeat it the next day. I recommend you set an alarm on your phone each day for the next 3 days.
Remember, this is a daily practice and practice makes progress, NOT perfection. There is no perfect with this exercise or right or wrong.
I recommend you complete it for a minimum of 3 days in a row. However it’s meant to be a daily morning ritual for you and I invite you to use it as one.
Self esteem is developed by taking action. This daily practice that I’m about to share with you, will make an enormous impact on your life.
Please share with me in comments below how it goes for you, once you get started.
When I first starting practicing this “mirror work”, I eventually stopped eating as much crappy food, listening to my many crappy thoughts and slowly stopped making choices in my life against my intuition.
I figured out how to feed my real hunger.
My real hunger often had little to do with food itself but instead a deep insatiable hunger for being connected to myself and my purpose to help others in this life. Admittedly it had to do with real food too, but that is for a different blog.
You are not going to be much good to others long term unless you are engaged in how to love yourself and feed yourself. Eventually the well of energy that you have stored up will begin to dry up.
I am here to help you figure out what you are really hungry for.
You need one tool: A mirror. Clean it well so you can really see yourself.
Sit comfortably in front of the mirror. You may also stand, but sitting is a good way to begin. Relax your entire your body as best as you can. Use a chair or sit on a pillow.
Look into the mirror. Look into your eyes. Blow out all of the air in your chest (like you are blowing a balloon). Completely empty your lungs. Now, inhale deeply, all the way down to the bottom of your belly.
Say to yourself these three words: “Life loves you”
And then exhale.
Notice the thoughts you have.
Notice the sensations you have in your body.
Notice any tensions you have or lightness you might experience.
Notice your emotional state. There might be anger, frustration, sadness, confusion.
This isn’t about being positive, this is about being REAL – AUTHENTIC – HONEST.
Look into your eyes. Relax.
Breath out completely. Now inhale deeply.
Say to yourself these three words: “Life loves you”
Notice, it DOES NOT say, “Life loves you if you complete that project” or “Life loves you if you lose 15 pounds” or “Life loves you if you make more money” or “Life loves you because someone else loves you” or “Life loves you if you heal your cancer, digestive troubles, etc”.
It is that “LIFE LOVES YOU” right now. You don’t have to earn that love or achieve something new or change or be different than who you are right now. Life thinks you are absolutely incredible now and it’s working in your favor.
Goal: repeating this 10 times each day.
Some of you might repeat it 3 times each day for a while. Some of you may start with one time a day. Work up to 10.
Write down your experience in your journal.
Affirm to yourself: I am open to life loving me today.
Here are some tips:
- Look deeply into your eyes while sitting comfortable.
- Remember to breathe. It’s common to forget this and tense up.
- Be kind to yourself. Try to be curious versus judgmental. There is no right or wrong.
- I cry when I do this at times, you might too. You might not cry at all or you may not feel anything at first.
- Keep at it.
- If you feel uncomfortable, that’s okay, just notice that you are uncomfortable but keep repeating “life loves you”, breathing and looking into your eyes in the mirror.
- The Mirror Project might challenge you or feel out of your comfort zone at first. That is supposed to happen, but when you stay in your discomfort for a few moments and look at your fears and into your eyes, eventually you’ll be able to see past them and into YOU.
- You will learn about who you are and know your pain and the freedom that comes seeing yourself fully.
- Know that this is a wise way to spend 5-15 minutes of your time, it’s an investment in the rest of your life.
This practice today is just taste of mirror work, for more tastes you can read part 2 or part 3 (coming soon).
You can also find the online 8-week group coaching course I created called Love Your Life Academy and apply for it here.
It will transform your life.
After a while, my clients aren’t afraid to look people in the eyes, speak their truth, ask for what they want and treat themselves with respect; they notice that they trust themselves more than they ever have before.
The fears and worries that once consumed them are not controlling their life now. They had to go through hard days and good days to get there and so did I on my own coaching journey in the past 15 years and you will too. Remember that they are going to be highlighted by some many great days and you’ll appreciate all of it more when you can appreciate the contrast.
Our tough moments define who we are as much as our incredible ones.
I would not change any of my life story. It’s all gotten me right here, right now, with you.
Thanks for joining in on The Mirror Project, now go find a mirror.
Don’t forget to leave me a comment below. I love hearing from you,
Hey there! It sure has been an interesting week. I’ve been growing much wiser lately. Forced to grow and also willing. How about you?
Today I want to share this new truth that came to me. I sprinted to my computer to write it down.
I hope it will hit home for you.
Read on, if you’re curious.
It is a mistake to ONLY FOCUS your attention on what you can measure: Calories, your body ’weight’, your carbon footprint, the size of your ass, followers on social media, the dollars in your bank account, the number of shoes you own or the accolades you have received.
Sure, these all serve a purpose, I like the good life too. When performance is measured, it usually improves.
What if we didn’t place so much value on the measured items though. What if we did the opposite of what our culture likes and placed more value on things that you cannot measure… like love, passion and self esteem. (This is actually being done in over 40 countries, they call in Gross National Happiness – GNH)
I went to the doctor yesterday. The nurse weighed me. I haven’t seen that measurement since I was at the doctor last. I do not give any meaning to that number and it has no value to my life.
During the conversations I have with clients, I notice that the body weight number(and many other numbers) are often the measurement they are paying the most attention to.
The problem I see is actually not the measuring tools or the fact that they are measured, but instead the actual things we measure. As Chip Conley shares in his TED Talk, it’s not the tools that are the issue, it’s the toolbox.
When too much of our attention is on the tangible, bottom stuff on the Maslow Pyramid (safety and physiological), then we are forgetting about the biggest percentage of needs that are intangible and cannot be easily measured.
At the doctor, I was asked about my life. I was asked how I felt. The doctor wanted to know about my whole person. I told the doc my instinct about my gall bladder needing some flushing. He put his hands on the gallbladder and felt it and new to spend time working on getting it to move. That doctor spent time with me and I felt completely seen and heard. I felt empowered by my own health and body.
This has an enormous value to me, but you cannot easily measure it.
Many people argue with me on this or they say things like, “well if you did not like your weight, you would pay attention to the number on the scale”.
The biggest impact a person makes will not be measured.
For the record, I’ve met some really joyful, purposeful people who happen to be overweight and I’ve also met some depressed and mean skinny people. I’ve met healthy jerks and I’ve met unhealthy angels.
Don’t you think we are placing a little too much value on the measured results and not enough on the intangible aspects of our esteem, love and conscious choices in life?
For example, we cannot measure the impact that Prince has had on our culture. It isn’t just about the record sales. He was more than that.
That family member who has passed away, that impacted you so deeply, they are not remembered for anything you an measure, they had depth and soul.
So do you.
Again, it’s about the intangible things that we cannot measure.
We are all human and incredibly unique and interesting.
How can you measure something that you cannot touch, or see rise or fall. How can you put a number on how much love or joy or passion someone has. All humans are so unique. You just cannot use science to measure everything. Although, i bet we will try and that’s pretty awesome too.
One of my incredible clients, Dinah, said it best:
“Renee, has made some permanent changes in me that I can’t even put a price on it. Thinking about how important it is to be purposeful with my thoughts and how important it is to speak up and to have my voice. Just so many things. I don’t even think you can put a dollar value on it when you look back, how do you even ever put a dollar value on something that made you a wiser, happier, freer person? How do you? It’s like somebody comes along and let’s you out of your… Unties you from the chair you are bound to” – Dinah Carter
Focus on growing the intangible.
Remember to ALSO grow the things that you cannot measure. How will you know?
Well you will learn to trust your intuition and then you’ll just know. Trust me.
I started this new workout challenge. I’m 9 days in. I’m doing something to move my body and make me sweat each day for 15 minutes.
Somedays I actually take a class and other days, it’s me doing 15 minutes of squats, burpees, lunges and more until I fall on the floor with exhaustion.
15 minutes each day. No excuses! Everyone has access to 15 minutes a day if they choose it. It could be a walk outside.
Then I make myself a big yummy post workout green smoothie.
When you exhaust your body each day working out, it triggers a stress response that is actually healthy for you.
It will allow you to deal with overwhelm so much easier in your life and maybe even make it non-existent.
Post Workout Green Smoothie Recipe:
I did not measure this smoothie out purposefully. I think a smoothie can be fun when made with instinct versus measurements, try it!
- Swiss card
- Blueberries or strawberries (choose any berries)
- Hemp milk
- Avocado (tablespoon)
- Cucumber (peeled)
- Lemon (squeeze)
- Chia seeds (2 tablespoons)
- Athletic Greens (1 pouch) – click here to purchase Athletic Greens through my affiliate link
- Combine ingredients into your blender and blend.
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